Do you wonder why you can’t cry? Are you bereaved, feeling sad and do not understand why you can’t cry? Are you wondering what it might be like if you could cry? Does that sound like you?
What is stopping you from crying?
If you cannot cry, some of these phrases may resonate with you:
- feel scared that you will not be able to stop crying.
- worry that you will be so overwhelmed that you will feel out of control.
- have been taught that crying is a sign of weakness.
- feel so numb that you are not able to access that part of you.
- feel you should be okay given how much time has elapsed, so you do not allow yourself to cry.
- worry about upsetting others with your tears, so you feel you can’t cry.
- see this is now a habit that you realise you have adopted, and you can’t break it.
- wonder if you are normal because you can’t cry.
Whatever your reasons are for not crying they are valid. You are coping the best way you know how. However, if you are reading this it is likely that your current coping mechanisms are no longer working for you. It could be that you are needing to find another way to move forward with your life. Maybe you want to be able to cry. Imagine how you could feel if you can tap into the healing power of releasing your tears. Imagine a time when you feel better.
People who have come to me for therapy have felt like you feel now. They said they wanted to feel better. We have gently worked through their grief and pent-up emotions. Over time, they have come to terms with their loss, they feel more settled and can envisage a life without their loved one.
If you feel ready to explore your pain in order to feel better then please contact me on 07970 296702.