My Miscarriage

I hate this term – it feels too clinical, and for me it doesn’t reflect that my tiny human died. When it happened it knocked me sideways.  Even now, and it was 17 years ago, I still get a flicker of the feelings I had when I was told the news.  The...
What people don’t tell you about grief

What people don’t tell you about grief

Grief is a complex process.  Here are 7 things that will help you understand grief and how it affects you 1. It’s not just about sadness It is so much more complex than sadness.  It is psychological, physical, emotional and spiritual.  There is anger, emptiness,...
Marie Curie, National Day of Reflection

Marie Curie, National Day of Reflection

23 March 2021 marks one year since the first lockdown.  Marie Curie invites everyone in the UK to a National Day of Reflection so that we can pause and reflect on ‘our collective loss, support those who’ve been bereaved, and hope for a brighter...
Crying Part 2: Why Can’t I Cry?

Crying Part 2: Why Can’t I Cry?

Do you wonder why you can’t cry? Are you bereaved, feeling sad and do not understand why you can’t cry? Are you wondering what it might be like if you could cry? Does that sound like you? What is stopping you from crying? If you cannot cry, some of these phrases may...
Grieving in a Covid Era

Grieving in a Covid Era

Processing grief and loss is hard enough. Processing these emotions during a global pandemic takes it to another level. Finding Your Rhythm Some people find psychotherapy straightforward.  They know what they want to do and they jump straight in with both feet and...
Crying Part 1: I Cannot Stop Crying

Crying Part 1: I Cannot Stop Crying

As I was out walking the other day two phrases came into my head around bereavement – I cannot stop crying and I cannot cry – and I began to think about the meanings these phrases have had for people I have worked with during therapy sessions. Today’s blog is...